Each tactic is designed to destabilize you, your confidence, distort your reality, keep you competing for their approval, or get you into compliance and erode your self-worth.   

• Gaslighting — Denying events or twisting facts so you doubt your memory or judgment. Makes you wonder if you are crazy.
• Silent treatment — Withdrawing communication to punish you and make you chase their approval.
• Ghosting — Disappearing to avoid accountability, then returning when it benefits them.
• Comparison — Bringing up “better” people to make you insecure and dependent on their validation.
• Love bombing → devaluation — Overwhelming affection followed by sudden withdrawal to keep you hooked.
• Push and Pull -- Give anything to you for the sake of taking it away
• Fishing for compliments — Subtle or direct attempts to get praise to prop up a fragile ego.
• Putting themselves on a pedestal — Always portraying themselves as flawless or exceptional.
• Pitting friends against each other — Creating competition so they remain the center of attention.
• Triangulation — Bringing in a third person to spark jealousy or insecurity.
• Projection — Accusing you of the very behaviors they’re doing.
• Blame shifting -- Blaming you for things they do. "You're the one!"
• Manipulative apologies — “Apologies” that shift blame back onto you. "i'm sorry, BUT..."
• Undermining — Backhanded insults or covert digs that erode confidence.
• Entrenchment — Refusing to consider any viewpoint but their own; insisting their narrative is the only truth.
• Spewing word salad -- saying a whole bunch of unrelated nothings. Get you off a current subject by bringing up an old or totally unrelatable subject.
• Isolation -- Eliminating anyone from your circle who might see the reality of the situation.  or moving you to a place completely out of your element.
• Sabotage -- interfering with any attempts to gain autonomy via finances, employment, new relationships, your health, your car, etc.
• Smear Campaigns -- discrediting you, covincing people you are crazy, that you are the abuser, etc.
• Surveillance/Monitoring -- using cameras, audio recorders, sound enhancers, tracking devices
• Flying Monkeys -- people who pretend to be your friends but are really doing the bidding of the abuser to deliver calculated information to you, and/or report current status back to the abuser, or even just follow you.
• Drugging -- to cause you to appear as unstable as they say you are.
• Compulsive Lying -- lying even when they do not have to so that you never know any truth
• Cheating -- They always keep someone else on the line.
• Threats -- If you do this...then I will do that.  Threats of physical harm to you, your pets, your kids
• Suicide Threats -- to get you back into compliance.
• Staging -- Concocting situations that effect you so they can be the one to rescue you.
• Deprivation -- of rights, of freedom of basic human dignities and needs, even food.
• RAGE -- used to make you cease your current action(s), what it may be. Also the result of narcissistic injury caused by anyone, not just you, but you catch the brunt of it. 
• Fits -- the kind attributed to six year olds.